34. DON'T YELL

i should qualify this: DON'T YELL OUT OF ANGER
i definitely plan on yelling out of joy, and in protest.

i am understanding why people yell out of anger--because they are hurt. and they don't understand the root of the emotion. it's all reaction and no thought. i am thinking things through now. i feel stupid explaining this thought process. i know it's obvious to most people, but the realization is relatively new to me.

and lately i've actually employed it. i am hurt and instead of getting angry and yelling, i talk things out as calmly as i can. there is no cathartic release like there is with yelling, but i feel better about myself the next day, even if i don't feel better about the circumstances. i wouldn't feel better about the circumstances anyway.

it's such a relief, learning how to value yourself, your self.